You hear this a lot: face your fears! fight your fears! don’t let your fears get the better of you! embrace your fears! dive head first into fears! Etc. etc. Recent interactions with students have got me thinking about what this means, and I think there is a major misconception afoot. Students have said to…

“I saw this girl at the station yesterday, but I didn’t open because I wasn’t sarging” This is what one of my students said to me the other week. I’ve noticed that it’s a common thread of “gamers” and “PUAs” that they have to be “gaming” to “open”. The rest of the world calls it…