Welcome to Gamechanger #6. This one isn’t so easy to define. It’s not only changed my game, it’s changed the bigger game of life in both mental and fundamental ways that I never could have foreseen. It has been an evolution, so I can’t pin-point an exact time that it happened (it’s still happening) but it’s been a hell of a journey. There were two books I read, understood and more importantly, felt that transformed everything:
These guys – the Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle and Radical Honesty by Brad Blanton. They taught me presence: to lose my mind and come to my senses.
But what has that got to do with daygame?
Everything, my friends… everything. When you are out there, in touch with yourself, in flow, out of touch with thought, but in the moment – that is, enjoying it (that’s the same thing), not knowing what’s coming next, but going with the flow, results are RIDICULOUS when looked at on a cerebral level.
I’ll do this in bullet points of meta-gamechangers which contributed to this one.
- Reading the Power for now. During this I realised for the first time what being present is: it’s not saying to yourself “be present” (because that’s in your head), in fact, it’s not saying anything to yourself, or to put it the other way round, the natural consequence of being present is not saying anything to yourself, that is, not thinking.
- Presence. When reading this book I also realised (not learned, but realised, which is a different and deeper thing) that this moment, the one right now, is all there ever was, is, or will be. I realised how much I had been treating the past and the future like it was reality. It’s not reality, they don’t exist. Only a deluded madman would make non-existent things existent. I realised, I was that madman (and so are most people).
- Body awareness. One practice to help me realise this was body awareness. I started to meditate feeling into my body. Let me be clear about what this is – it’s not thinking “ok, I’ll feel into my body” – that’s in the head. It’s not visualising your body – that’s still in the head. It’s fundamental, and it comes before all this. So I started practicing this on a regular basis. What happened? Frustration. Impatience. Endless thought. Madness. And then? Ecstasy. Fire coursing through my body. You know the feeling that leads up to orgasm? Times that by a million, then add that it doesn’t stop. Not bad for something free and accessible at any time! How does this help in game? Well, you’re walking along the street. You’re in your head, and you know it. How do you get out of your head? Easy – you get in your body. You body comes alive – fire flooding through it. The more you do this the better you get, and you can shift your attention at a moment’s notice. Useful? Essential. And joyful. There is no AA when you are here. It’s just not possible – AA can and only exists in the mind. The mind needs to turn adrenaline into AA by associating it with the past and the future. That’s just the mind doing its job!
- Honesty. This was a bombshell – Radical Honesty taught me this. I realised the more honest I was, the happier and healthier I was. This includes revealing withheld things. So I contacted my parents and started to pull down the bullshit walls of my self-image. I got healthy overnight (my IBS cleared up). This has to be an ongoing process, but it also lead to what I can only describe as an awakening. You can read about it in my post.
This whole, multi-faceted process can be summarised with the simple result of it all, the one greatest commandment for daygame:
Join me next time for the last in this series of Gamechangers.
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