Isn’t this just harassment?

I’ve been asked that question by two journalists, a few onlookers and some TV production people. I was prompted to write this post after two girls that I’m seeing (both I’ve been with for over a year) happened to be harassed just before I met up with them. In both cases the problem was the…

Questions or statements?

When you’re attempting to create a one-size-fits-all blueprint you’re bound to make a load of generalisations. The trouble is that a lot of misguided apprentices out there take these as gospel. Such is the case with the obsession over making statements all the time. In an attempt to avoid boring interview questions a lot of…

“You have to let it all go, Neo…”

This scene from the Matrix nicely summarizes the key to daygame, which means of course the key to life in general (depending on whether you want a life of freedom or not). Morpheus turns to Neo and with a knowing look says: “You have to let it all go, Neo: fear, doubt, disbelief. Free your…

Labels, labels, labels…

n the light of the various scandals surrounding the “pickup” movement, the idea of a PUA is at an all-time negative currently. Whatever you think about Julien RSD, Dappa Laughs and how that ties into the recent neo-feminist movement and videos such as the new york cat calls, “PUA” seems to be a dirty word…

#YesAllWomen #CatCalling

As much as I see the MRA and the feminazi movements as different sides of the same grubby coin (the coin’s name is the NO EMPATHY COIN) I think that the #YesAllWomen hashtag and other recent trends, have highlighted some cultural norms which are good to challenge. I like challenging cultural norms – that’s why…

The main reason why guys fail at this…

  Take a look at the “PUA” forums and look how the “Outer Game” threads vastly outnumber the “Inner Game” discussions. This highlights the main sticking point with guys. Too much focus on what to do and how to do it, not enough on who to be.                …

Fucking up is great

Just a quick post, while replying to a student’s email, I came out with something that he said was a bit of a gem, so I share it here with you, I hope it might inspire someone, somewhere. It was in relation to failure: feeling like a failure, being afraid of failure… Go, fail, enjoy……