Go deeper, go deeper, deeper…

Those of you who are regulars to this blog know that I see daygame as a tool of self-discovery, of finding out who you are, along with meditation, travel, living from your core and being honest. I’ve been trying to get my feeling process into words for some time. Since it’s my feeling process, no…

Gamechanger #5: Make Lemonade

“When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.” Frequent things my students say: – “She said she had a boyfriend, what do I do?” – “I couldn’t approach because she saw me.” – “She’s gone into the shop. It would be weird.” – “She said another guy just came and said the exact thing.” One of…

Trust yourself

I think this is one of the toughest aspects of the whole game. In fact, it’s one of the toughest aspects of life to get your head around. In fact, it’s impossible to get your head around it, and that’s the challenge. One of the greatest benefits of daygame is that it teaches you to…

Gamechanger #4: Practice

Practice makes perfect. Such a cliche now isn’t it? Well it’s sort of true – good practice makes perfect. Practice alone makes better. However, there comes a time when you have to go out guns-a-blazing and do something amazing. Self-help gurus call this “take massive action”! It wasn’t until April 2012 that I set myself…

It’s called having a conversation

“So why didn’t you approach?” “I didn’t know what opener to use, and even after then I didn’t know the transition. Then I didn’t know when to go for the number close, or what close-gambit to use.” So I approach my student’s abandoned set instead, with one technique: I have a conversation. Ever since this…

Gamechanger #3: Give

Time for Gamechanger #3. This one might have been the biggest ever – this revolutionised the concept of Daygame, and made sure I never had AA in the same way ever again! This mindset is golden, and it’s also easy. Double win! This was in August 2011 – a solid year into daygame I’ve been…

Star Wars and Daygame

I’m amazed at how often, during teaching, I think about and quote from Star Wars. It might be that I watched these films 800 million times as a kid, and they are therefore my only reference point. Still, here’s how they apply… 1. “All his life has he looked away… to the future, to the…

Gamechanger #2: Willy Wisdom

Here’s the next game-changer.. a bit obvious when you think about it, or rather, when you stop thinking about it… From way back in November 2010: This I learned recently. If your brain is anything like mine, it analyses, calculates and processes all possibilities of everything and tries to deal with all outcomes of infinite…

Gamechanger #1: Just do it

Hello and welcome to a series dedicated to those lightbulb moments, those moments when something “clicked”.  I’ll be sharing 5 major gamechangers for me to hopefully encourage and inspire you. Especially those of you who are struggling, in a bad place or trough, or can’t see the light. Just keep going, and these “clicks” will…

Should I do this? Should I do that?

This is something which is never discussed in the community “When should I go in for the kiss?” “Should I kino on the date?” “Should I leave it a day before texting?” Here are some techniques: Ping texts, kino ladder, qualification, disqualification, teasing, push-pull, time constraints, takeaways, tele-shagging, leading, rewarding good behaviour, statement of interest,…