Language

Thought corrupts language, language corrupts thought. Clever man, that George Orwell. This is very true, and politicians and leaders have been riding on it for as long as they’ve been visible. With phrases like “friendly fire” (shooting your own side), “austerity measures” (we’ll cut whatever we want) and “axis of evil” (we’re the good ones)…

Feminism and confusion

Feminism is a word loaded with controversy – some see it as female domination, or ugly lesbians, or ugly straights who just can’t get a man, or moaning bitches, or they-want-equality-but-they-also-want-me-to-lift-heavy-boxes-aren’t-they-hypocrites? I for one am a feminist advocate. I think that gaining social and economic equality is a good thing. The empowerment of women helps…

Techniques are like symptoms

This here book is The Secret Life of Pronouns, a fascinating and in-depth study into language. It looks at language of love, lying, personality and – yes – status. The surprising conclusion is that the most important words in determining these things are the words we don’t think about: personal pronouns (I, you, we) and…

Allowing, not forcing

I was reading Derren Brown’s “Tricks of the Mind” and the section on hypnotism. A quotation: you can start to realize that in fact you are only guiding your subjects down an easy path to what you want them to experience. You are not making them do anything. Think of it like a seduction. A seduction.…

Daygame For The Love Of It

I’ve written before about the joylessness and insanity of making an enemy of yourself: “I’ve got to get these approaches done.” “I’ve got to get this victory over myself.” “I’ve got to get these 10 approaches down or I’m worthless.” It’s being over goal-oriented. And the problem with fighting yourself is that’s where all the…

What goes up quickly comes down quickly

“You can learn to approach and attract the girl of your dreams in one day!” The companies do give it a lot of that, don’t they? The spiel. I’m an ABRSM Diploma pianist. That means I have a high level of playing the piano. Now, how do you think I achieved this? Here are three…

Daygame is the best medicine

“Laughter is the best medicine.” SOD OFF. Daygame is the best medicine. A bit of back-story. One of the reasons laughter is a good medicine is that – apart from the brain drugs it releases – it brings you firmly into the present moment because you can feel your lungs and diaphragm twatting about. That’s…

We think too much and feel too little

Same old chestnut, ain’t it: all these problems people have – how do I do this? what do I say? What will they think? What if she kicks me in the nuts? All based on being in your head – and as dear old Beckster said: “you have to be out of your head, not…

Be like children

Kidz say da funniest things Do they? I don’t think so I think comedians say funnier things. Kids are mostly idiots. They don’t think about what they say, the just blurt out whatever occurs to them. That’s what I like about kids, and that’s where you will find gold in daygame, and in life. I’ve…

Gamechanger #6: Be Here Now.

Welcome to Gamechanger #6. This one isn’t so easy to define. It’s not only changed my game, it’s changed the bigger game of life in both mental and fundamental ways that I never could have foreseen. It has been an evolution, so I can’t pin-point an exact time that it happened (it’s still happening) but…