What goes up quickly comes down quickly

“You can learn to approach and attract the girl of your dreams in one day!” The companies do give it a lot of that, don’t they? The spiel. I’m an ABRSM Diploma pianist. That means I have a high level of playing the piano. Now, how do you think I achieved this? Here are three…

Daygame is the best medicine

“Laughter is the best medicine.” SOD OFF. Daygame is the best medicine. A bit of back-story. One of the reasons laughter is a good medicine is that – apart from the brain drugs it releases – it brings you firmly into the present moment because you can feel your lungs and diaphragm twatting about. That’s…

We think too much and feel too little

Same old chestnut, ain’t it: all these problems people have – how do I do this? what do I say? What will they think? What if she kicks me in the nuts? All based on being in your head – and as dear old Beckster said: “you have to be out of your head, not…

Be like children

Kidz say da funniest things Do they? I don’t think so I think comedians say funnier things. Kids are mostly idiots. They don’t think about what they say, the just blurt out whatever occurs to them. That’s what I like about kids, and that’s where you will find gold in daygame, and in life. I’ve…

Gamechanger #6: Be Here Now.

Welcome to Gamechanger #6. This one isn’t so easy to define. It’s not only changed my game, it’s changed the bigger game of life in both mental and fundamental ways that I never could have foreseen. It has been an evolution, so I can’t pin-point an exact time that it happened (it’s still happening) but…

Go deeper, go deeper, deeper…

Those of you who are regulars to this blog know that I see daygame as a tool of self-discovery, of finding out who you are, along with meditation, travel, living from your core and being honest. I’ve been trying to get my feeling process into words for some time. Since it’s my feeling process, no…

Gamechanger #5: Make Lemonade

“When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.” Frequent things my students say: – “She said she had a boyfriend, what do I do?” – “I couldn’t approach because she saw me.” – “She’s gone into the shop. It would be weird.” – “She said another guy just came and said the exact thing.” One of…

Trust yourself

I think this is one of the toughest aspects of the whole game. In fact, it’s one of the toughest aspects of life to get your head around. In fact, it’s impossible to get your head around it, and that’s the challenge. One of the greatest benefits of daygame is that it teaches you to…

Gamechanger #4: Practice

Practice makes perfect. Such a cliche now isn’t it? Well it’s sort of true – good practice makes perfect. Practice alone makes better. However, there comes a time when you have to go out guns-a-blazing and do something amazing. Self-help gurus call this “take massive action”! It wasn’t until April 2012 that I set myself…

It’s called having a conversation

“So why didn’t you approach?” “I didn’t know what opener to use, and even after then I didn’t know the transition. Then I didn’t know when to go for the number close, or what close-gambit to use.” So I approach my student’s abandoned set instead, with one technique: I have a conversation. Ever since this…